Why is Nobody Talking to ME?

In high school, Nimmi struggled with loneliness feelings; that made even simple interactions challenging. She longed for inclusion in parties and group activities, but her efforts to speak up in class were consistently overlooked by others.

It is her personality that often held her back from approaching people, making it difficult to form connections; also on the other hand, the classroom environment seemed to prioritize louder voices, leaving her feeling unheard.

Always "REMEMBER"

Confused by her peer's neglect, Nimmi started to think about the reasons behind their indifference.

She also felt that spending time "ALONE", provided her an opportunity to do things she enjoys or be more productive like;

• Finishing her homework
• Reading and upgrading her knowledge
• Writing a diary (expressing feelings and ideas through writing can be therapeutic)
• Sketching, draw a masterpiece (get sense of accomplishment and creative satisfaction)
• Learning something new, acquiring valuable skills, and gaining knowledge about topics that could enrich her future portfolio.

While finding ways to spend time in the classroom provided a solution, but the desire to make friends remained in the back of her mind, prompted her to think how to initiate meaningful connections with her peers. 

So, she tried the following strategies;

• Initiate Conversations, simple greetings like "HELLO" or "HI", and asking questions, like their interests, hobbies, or opinions about studies etc.
• Participate in Group Activities, given by the teacher; doing so, she has a reason to interact and showcase her skills with her peers.
• Attend Social Events, arranged by the school and join music and art clubs as she may get to find like minded people over there.
• Volunteer in Class Activities, class related tasks (given by the teacher), so that she can engage.
• Be Approachable, be more cheerful and easy going, maintain friendly posture, make eye contact, and smile when appropriate to be approachable.
• Expand Social Circle, by connecting with people in other classes or joining extracurricular activities.

🤞HOPE NIMMI FINDS A BEST FRIEND SOON

Many introverted people have adopted ineffective strategies to cope with this issue, like;

• Isolating themselves further
• Avoiding social situations
• Suppressing their true personalities to fit in.

NEGATIVE IMPACT OF LONELINESS ISSUE

1. Marilyn Monroe, despite her fame and beauty, suffered with loneliness, anxiety, and insecurity which led to her untimely death in 1962.

Marilyn Manroe

2. Vincent van Gogh, the renowned Dutch painter, had difficulty forming meaningful relationships throughout his life, despite his artistic genius.

Vincent van Gogh

3. Emily Dickson, relied on creative writing and reclusive lifestyle to cope with loneliness.

Emily Dickson

4. Sandhya Mridul, an accomplished Indian actress says she relied on alcohol as a coping mechanism during public events.

Sandhya Mridul

Recognizing the struggles of introverted individuals, it is important for us to break the barriers of isolation and share our emotions with those close to us. This approach can help us prevent the negative outcomes experienced by others in similar situations.

FOUGHT LONELINESS WITH SUCCESS

Some famous personalities acknowledged their drawbacks, addressed them, and achieved remarkable success in their lives, like;

1. Own strategies

John Mayer, a musician, struggled shyness early in his career but confronted his fears by performing LIVE and participating in interviews.

John Mayer

2. Taking help of a therapist

Ricky Williams, a footballer, long back, felt isolated and misunderstood. He sought therapy, began treatment, finding immense relief and improvement in life.

Ricky Williams

3. Changing Mentality

Kristen Stewart, a film star, used to experience panic attacks and stomachaches in her youth, but with time grown out of symptoms.

Kristen Stewart

4. Open Conversations

Demi Lovato, a musician, overcame the issue by open conversations.

Demi Lovato

5. Learning to say "NO"

Lady Gaga, a pop star, says learning to say "NO" and staying true to her values helped her mental well-being.

Lady Gaga

6. "HUMOR"

Adele, a singer, relied on "HUMOR" to cope with her anxiety issues.

Adele

7. Learning how to deal with "NEGATIVE"people

Lena Dunham, writer and actress, emphasized on resilience in the face of criticism by negative people and importance of continuing to live authentically.

Lena Dunham

8. Finding inner strength

Sarah Silverman, a well-known comedian, overcame loneliness issues by emphasizing that while these challenges exist, we must give importance to life's joys.

Sarah Silverman

9. Doing what you "LOVE"

Emma Stone, an actress, finds doing what you like ( for her, acting) and focusing on the present moment can help.

Emma Stone

10. Power of "MEDITATION"

Dan Harris, a former anchor, wrote a book emphasizing the value of meditation as best approach to manage this issue.

Dan Harris

11. "EXERCISE" can help

Khole Kardashian, a fitness enthusiast, finds exercising as best therapy and stress reliever to face challenging times in her life.

Khole Kardashian

12. "LIFESTYLE" changes

Ashley Benson, an actress, says lifestyle changes to healthy version can help to develop confidence and positive attitude.

Ashley Benson

13. Getting "HELP" you need

LeAnn Rimes, a pop star, says if we are not able to change ourselves we should not shy away from taking help from a treatment facility.

LeAnn Rimes

14. Focusing on "WHAT IS IMPORTANT"

Jennifer Lawrence, an actress, says being authentic and knowing "what is important" for you is best practice to deal with this issue.

Jennifer Lawrence

I feel, building friendships indeed takes time. It is important to note that not all connections will evolve into close friendship.

Initial setbacks or rejections should not be disheartening as we do not know the exact reason for such reactions from peers.

Some reasons for REJECTIONS;

• Introverted personality, cannot open up, leading to misunderstandings to be an arrogant person
• Lack of awareness by peers, that their behavior is causing anyone feel isolated (busy with their own social concerns)
• Jealousy
• Biases
• Differing interests.

No matter what the reasons are one should be confident to face the reality and find solutions to their problems to make meaningful connections.

What do you think???